About How To Find Happiness Now

Disclosure: It’s important to me, and vital to the process, that I’m able to share the aspects of my life I want to change. As you’ll no doubt discover, some of the details I’m going to share with you would cause my family pain and embarrassment if I were to write under my own name. So, I’ve decided to use a pen name and keep some of the personal details fairly vague.

I’ll explain my decision in greater detail in a future post, but for now I trust you’ll be able to overlook that one small detail and gain some benefit from the site.

About me

My name is Andy,

I’m a 40 year old middle class man with a wife and children. I’ve been married for 14 years and all my children, 2 boys and 2 girls,  are under 10 years old.

If you knew me personally and asked me whether I’m happy I would probably tell you yes I am, but the truth is, I’m not happy. Not really.

I haven’t been truly happy for years.

It’s only now though that I’ve come to admit it to myself.

I’m not saying that I haven’t had periods of great joy and happiness, I have, and I have a lot to be grateful for – but – for the majority of the the time I just haven’t felt happy with myself or with life in general.

I want to change that, and I want to change it now.

I want to be happy!

Here’s a little background:

Two decades ago I made a career choice that at the time was the best move I could have made. It opened up a whole new world of opportunity for me and I soaked up decades worth of life experience in a just a few short years. It was exciting, challenging and rewarding.

Along the way I found the love of my life, got married, took on a mortgage and had children.

Fairly ordinary stuff, I’m sure you’d agree.

But somewhere along the way I started to question things. I started to dislike my job and eventually came to hate it.

All of our children,  came along in a short space of time and in the midst of that I had to contend with my father being diagnosed with cancer and then dying after a protracted illness. His death hit me hard and even now, several years later, the impact that had on my life is obvious to those around me.

About year and a half ago I left work to look after the children to allow my wife to further her own career. It suited me because I resented spending my time doing something I hated and relished the idea of spending time with my children I thought this would make me happy, but it didn’t.

Instead of just getting on with the job at hand I decided to try and build a business from home to make up for my lost wages (and lost self esteem). Despite my efforts over the last 18 months I have yet to see an income of any sort and to make matters worse I haven’t done a great job managing the home-life or the finances.

The combination of these events (and more besides) put an enormous strain on my marriage and put my marriage in real jeopardy.

When finally I started to tackle the major issues in my life (or possibly in my head) I discovered that for years I’ve been deferring my happiness waiting for, or trying to engineer, a magical moment when I can start to live as I really want.

It transpires that I could have been happy all along and I’ve wasted too much time allowing myself to feel unhappy.

Not any more though, I’m determined to understand how to find happiness now. Hence the name of the site!

Read on to find out what this site is about.

About The Site

How many personal development books have you read hoping to find the secret to dealing with some troubling aspect of your life?

If you’re anything like me you’ll have read somewhere near two dozen books, possibly more!

And having read all these books and found some great insights, have you ever wondered why your life is still the same?

I know I have, and to make sure I don’t keep repeating the same mistake, I’ve set up this site.

I’ve read a lot of self help books over the years all promising to make me happier, richer, thinner or something else er, but in truth, I’ve never really used the information they contain.

It’s nice to have the knowledge but without putting it to use it’s pretty ineffective and is quickly forgotten.

I’ve decided to try again with a brand new book… and this time I’m going to make it work.

“How To Be Rich And Happy” lays out a framework for achieving my goal of finding happiness and I’m going to use this site to document my progress as I work my way through the book.

I’ll be writing about the aspects of myself and my life that I want to change and I’ll be using How To Be Rich And Happy to guide me through the process.

I intend to prove to myself that I can make lasting and positive changes and live a happy life.

You’re welcome to join me and see how I get along.

About The Book

Written by respected author John P. Strelecky and Professional Life Coach Tim Brownson, the book is available as a download right now and you can obtain it through this link: How To Be Rich and Happy. If you follow the link you’ll also be able to download a section of the book free.

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Thank you, Andy